**EPISODE 8 OF THE HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST!** **TODAY'S TOPICS:** Coming out of the OF Closet, "Wow, you're Sexy for 53" & Other Pet Peeves. Click the link below to have a listen and show me some love by liking this post 💋❤️
2022-06-04 16:18:34 +0000 UTC View Post
**EPISODE 7 OF THE HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST!** Morning mayhem, MILFS, and **More!** Yeah, took a couple of days off, but I am **BACK**!! Click the link below to have a listen and show me some love by liking this post 💋❤️
2022-06-03 14:01:50 +0000 UTC View Post
**Today's Morning Affirmation:** *"I am worthy of love, flaws and all."*
2022-06-02 12:37:56 +0000 UTC View Post
**9 FACTS ABOUT GRAY HAIR** **1. Normal aging is the biggest culprit.** Okay, no surprise here. Dermatologists call this the 50-50-50 rule. "Fifty percent of the population has about 50% gray hair at age 50," says Dr. Anthony Oro, professor of dermatology at Stanford University. And like skin, hair changes its texture with age **2. Your ethnicity makes a difference.** Caucasians tend to go gray earlier — and redheads earliest of all. Then Asians. Then African-Americans. Scientists haven't figured out why yet. **3. Stress seems to play a role.** "Stress won't cause you to go gray directly," says Dr. Roopal Kundu, associate professor in dermatology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine. "But stress is implicated in a lot of skin and hair issues." During an illness, for example, people can shed hair rapidly. And hair you lose after a stressful event — like getting chemotherapy — may grow back a different color. **4. Your lifestyle makes a difference.** Smoking, for example, stresses your skin and hair. "Low vitamin B12 levels are notorious for causing loss of hair pigment," says Dr. Karthik Krishnamurthy, director of the Dermatology Center's Cosmetic Clinic at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, New York. Try eating foods such as liver and carrots, recommends Dr. Wilma Bergfeld, a senior dermatologist at the Cleveland Clinic. Foods packed with certain vitamins, nutrients and antioxidants may help protect cells against toxins and help prevent heart disease, cancer, and other ailments (and perhaps gray hair!). **5. Hair and its color are separate things.** Hair stem cells make hair, and pigment-forming stem cells make pigment. Typically they work together, but either can wear out, sometimes prematurely. Researchers are trying to figure out if a medicine, or something you could put in your scalp, could slow the graying process. (Hair dye simply coats your hair in color but doesn't alter its structure.) **6. Your hair basically bleaches itself.** You may be familiar with hydrogen peroxide as a way to go blonde, but it's also the way we go gray. According to a 2009 study published by the Federation of American Societies for Experimental Biology, hydrogen peroxide naturally occurs in our hair follicles, and as we get older, it builds up. This build-up blocks the production of melanin, a.k.a. our hair's pigment. **7. Your hair doesn't turn gray — it grows that way.** A single hair grows for one to three years, then you shed it — and grow a new one. As you age, your new hairs are more likely to be white. "Every time the hair regenerates, you have to re-form these pigment-forming cells, and they wear out," says Oro. **8. Gray hair isn't more coarse than colored hair.** Gray hair is actually finer than colored hair, but it may seem drier because our scalps produce less oil as we get older. Another reason it could seem more rough? "Your hair may also 'feel' coarser if you pull out your first few grey hairs," says Philip Kingsley trichologist Glenn Lyons. "This is because constant pulling-out of hair can distort your follicles, resulting in more crinkly hair." **9. Gray hair can be resistant to color.** If you opt to color your hair, your may find that it's more stubborn about taking color than before you started going gray. "Some gray can be resistant to hair color," say the experts at Madison Reed. "If this is true for you, consider dropping down a color level or using something darker on your roots to deliver even more coverage."
2022-06-02 01:49:41 +0000 UTC View Post
@anjimonique has a fabulous post about body image and self-love right now, but I'm gonna do a 'who wore it better?' post. I snatched that blue thing outta her mitts the minute she got it in the mail and put it on my head because the crotch of this lingerie had an *oddly missing part*. **(honestly, I think it looks better on her than me 😂😈)** That being said, I want to add that I think **joy and laughter** are key ingredients to self-love and acceptance as we age and she has *loads* of it.
2022-05-31 20:57:27 +0000 UTC View Post
**EPISODE 6 OF THE HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST IS UP!** Hope you all had an amazing Memorial Weekend (if you're in the US)- or just a great weekend in general. Today's topics are Memorial Weekend Shenanigans, Time Wasters, and more general TMI (including a story about a phone call with my cousin @surfwithclaire ) https://onlyfans.com/hotmesstv https://onlyfans.com/surfwithclaire
2022-05-31 15:07:38 +0000 UTC View Post
**Lupus and Sun Exposure** People who live with chronic genetic autoimmune issues can experience flares due to sun exposure. I am one of them. While it is great for keeping the complexion youthful, vitamin D3 supplements are a *must*. More on lupus and sunlight: Many people with lupus experience photosensitivity or unusual sensitivity to sunlight. This can trigger symptoms such as skin rashes, itching, and burning. Excess sun exposure can also cause flares in systemic lupus, triggering symptoms such as joint pain, weakness, and fatigue.
2022-05-31 01:32:17 +0000 UTC View Post
**HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST WITH JESS EPISODE 5** Special guest @anjimonique and I discuss the *stigma of OnlyFans for the average woman* and sexuality over 40- plus freeing the nipple and other issues. https://onlyfans.com/hotmesstv https://onlyfans.com/anjimonique
2022-05-30 13:45:16 +0000 UTC View Post
**HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST WITH JESS EPISODE 4** Happy Memorial Weekend! A *LOT* OF TMI, DIY & Outdoor Cooking, George Carlin, **TITS**, and let's play the game *"Is it a cold or covid?"*
2022-05-29 12:22:58 +0000 UTC View Post
**HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST WITH JESS EPISODE 3** Boudoir photoshoot with @anjimonique experiences, Body Image and Aging, and the "D" word: DIET. ALSO, a cameo shout out to my cousin Claire @surfwithclaire, because photoshoots are **hard**. https://onlyfans.com/hotmesstv https://onlyfans.com/anjimonique https://onlyfans.com/surfwithclaire
2022-05-28 13:32:03 +0000 UTC View Post
Now that the sun is back out in full force, it's sunscreen time again! Sunscreen is a must for *anyone*, but it is especially imperative to limit sun exposure if you have an autoimmune issue, like lupus. For many of us, the sun can trigger flares. Minimize your flares by supplementing with vitamin D3 and limiting your time in the sun- and by wearing sunscreen and a hat when you do go out.
2022-05-28 13:24:52 +0000 UTC View Post
Had lessons in boudoir posing and a photoshoot with the incredible @anjimonique and showed her skincare tips and tricks in return to keep her flawless skin glowing at 40. https://onlyfans.com/hotmesstv https://onlyfans.com/anjimonique
2022-05-27 21:19:10 +0000 UTC View Post
**HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST WITH JESS EPISODE 2** Monkey Pox, The World doesn't make sense, general weirdness, coffee talk
2022-05-27 11:52:47 +0000 UTC View Post**Paella over a wood fire** Yeah, I have odd hobbies, not all of them particularly titillating, but I love them. This week, I purchased a vintage terracotta outdoor oven and DIY refurbed it and painted and sealed it. Cooking is one of my passions and I have extremely eclectic tastes. I've wanted to make Spanish paella the traditional way for years and I was finally able to do so this week and the result was SO spectacular. I have a traditional Moroccan brasier coming soon and the next outdoor cookery experiment with be with a *tagine*.
2022-05-26 18:17:02 +0000 UTC View Post
**THE VERY FIRST HOTMESSTV MORNING PODCAST** **HOTMESSTV MORNING MESS PODCAST WITH JESS EPISODE 1** Yeah, idk if this is a podcast per se, but It's a long-winded voice msg I am *calling a podcast*
2022-05-26 12:19:31 +0000 UTC View PostWomen face pressure and unfair expectations about their bodies at every age. But, for some reason, body positivity is often portrayed as an issue only impacting girls and younger women. Men, also, face the same pressures and often don't discuss it. Learn to embrace and love the skin you're in **now**. What a blessing it is to even be alive!
2022-05-26 00:55:06 +0000 UTC View Post
53 is the new 53. Beauty is timeless. Embrace your age, body, shape, weight and love ❤️ yourself. Boudoir photography is a great gift for the soul and Anji Monique at @anjimonique can definitely coax out your inner Goddess. **Check your DMs for previews of my photoshoot last night with the amazing @anjimonique ** https://onlyfans.com/anjimonique https://onlyfans.com/hotmesstv
2022-05-25 15:27:32 +0000 UTC View Post
OF merch has great rainy day items ❤️
2022-05-23 16:47:37 +0000 UTC View PostIf you're having problems viewing messages or messaging today, drop an emoji in the comments- or DM me. Having coffee now xo
2022-05-21 17:17:39 +0000 UTC View PostA bold lipstick 💄 will brighten even a makeup free complexion- something one needs as we go gray. #grayhairtransition
2022-05-20 16:04:09 +0000 UTC View Post
Gray hair transition progress! **This** is 53 years old.
2022-05-18 17:01:44 +0000 UTC View Post
Scenes from filming the other day. Dirty martinis help the soul. Clean exfoliated skin keeps the wrinkles away.
2022-05-16 14:19:47 +0000 UTC View Post
Thank goodness for the weekend!! No makeup morning 💋❤️ I will be 53 and a HALF in exactly **one** month. Halfway to 54!
2022-05-14 13:39:27 +0000 UTC View Post
as the weather warms, DON'T FORGET THOSE SUNGLASSES! The most important benefit of wearing sunglasses is that they protect your eyes from ultraviolet (UV) light. UV light can have harmful effects on the eyelid, cornea, lens, and retina.
2022-05-13 01:07:36 +0000 UTC View Post
**Ten Tips for Communicating with a Person with Dementia** My mother has dementia. This week, I had to take her to see the oncologist and neurologist. It can be very devastating seeing your loved ones decline, but I feel it is my responsibility to make sure she has an advocate who loves her. I know I am not alone out there as an older adult. Sometimes, when I am not posting on here, this is one of the *many real-life* things I have to deal with. It can be extremely stressful to handle, especially as their communication skills decline- but here are a few tips: We aren’t born knowing how to communicate with a person with dementia—but we can learn. Improving your communication skills will help make caregiving less stressful and will likely improve the quality of your relationship with your loved one. Good communication skills will also enhance your ability to handle the difficult behavior you may encounter as you care for a person with a dementing illness. **Set a positive mood for interaction.** Your attitude and body language communicate your feelings and thoughts more strongly than your words do. Set a positive mood by speaking to your loved one in a pleasant and respectful manner. Use facial expressions, tone of voice, and physical touch to help convey your message and show your feelings of affection. **Get the person’s attention.** Limit distractions and noise—turn off the radio or TV, close the curtains or shut the door, or move to quieter surroundings. Before speaking, make sure you have her attention; address her by name, identify yourself by name and relation, and use nonverbal cues and touch to help keep her focused. If she is seated, get down to her level and maintain eye contact. **State your message clearly.** Use simple words and sentences. Speak slowly, distinctly, and in a reassuring tone. Refrain from raising your voice higher or louder; instead, pitch your voice lower. If she doesn’t understand the first time, use the same wording to repeat your message or question. If she still doesn’t understand, wait a few minutes and rephrase the question. Use the names of people and places instead of pronouns (he, she, they) or abbreviations. **Ask simple, answerable questions.** Ask one question at a time; those with yes or no answers work best. Refrain from asking open-ended questions or giving too many choices. For example, ask, “Would you like to wear your white shirt or your blue shirt?” Better still, show her the choices—visual prompts and cues also help clarify your question and can guide her response. **Listen with your ears, eyes, and heart.** Be patient in waiting for your loved one’s reply. If she is struggling for an answer, it’s okay to suggest words. Watch for nonverbal cues and body language, and respond appropriately. Always strive to listen for the meaning and feelings that underlie the words. **Break down activities into a series of steps.** This makes many tasks much more manageable. You can encourage your loved one to do what he can, gently remind him of steps he tends to forget, and assist with steps he’s no longer able to accomplish on his own. Using visual cues, such as showing him with your hand where to place the dinner plate, can be very helpful. **When the going gets tough, distract and redirect.** If your loved one becomes upset or agitated, try changing the subject or the environment. For example, ask him for help or suggest going for a walk. It is important to connect with the person on a feeling level before you redirect. You might say, “I see you’re feeling sad—I’m sorry you’re upset. Let’s go get something to eat.” **Respond with affection and reassurance.** People with dementia often feel confused, anxious, and unsure of themselves. Further, they often get reality confused and may recall things that never really occurred. Avoid trying to convince them they are wrong. Stay focused on the feelings they are demonstrating (which are real) and respond with verbal and physical expressions of comfort, support, and reassurance. Sometimes holding hands, touching, hugging, and praising will get the person to respond when all else fails. **Remember the good old days.** Remembering the past is often a soothing and affirming activity. Many people with dementia may not remember what happened 45 minutes ago, but they can clearly recall their lives 45 years earlier. Therefore, avoid asking questions that rely on short-term memory, such as asking the person what they had for lunch. Instead, try asking general questions about the person’s distant past—this information is more likely to be retained. **Maintain your sense of humor.** Use humor whenever possible, though not at the person’s expense. People with dementia tend to retain their social skills and are usually delighted to laugh along with you.
2022-05-11 01:40:29 +0000 UTC View Post
Before and after at the salon today! Happy Monday!
2022-05-10 03:31:52 +0000 UTC View Post
**THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF COFFEE** I need my cuppa joe in the mornings to get me going for the day. I rarely have more than one cup (or two) at my age, but there *are* definite health benefits. 👉🏻**What are the top health benefits of drinking coffee?** Your brew gives you benefits beyond an energy boost. Here are the top ways coffee can positively impact your health: 👉🏻**You could live longer.** Recent studies found that coffee drinkers are less likely to die from some of the leading causes of death in women: coronary heart disease, stroke, diabetes and kidney disease. 👉🏻**Your body may process glucose (or sugar) better.** That’s the theory behind studies that found that people who drink more coffee are less likely to get type 2 diabetes. 👉🏻**You're less likely to develop heart failure.** Drinking one to two cups of coffee a day may help ward off heart failure when a weakened heart has difficulty pumping enough blo0d to the body. 👉🏻**You are less likely to develop Parkinson's disease.** Caffeine is not only linked to a lower chance of developing Parkinson’s disease, but it may also help those with the condition better control their movements. 👉🏻**Your liver will thank you.** Both regular and decaf coffee seem to have a protective effect on your liver. Research shows that coffee drinkers are more likely to have liver enzyme levels within a healthy range than people who don’t drink coffee. 👉🏻**Your DNA will be stronger.** Dark roast coffee decreases breakage in DNA strands, which occur naturally but can lead to cancer or tumors if not repaired by your cells. 👉🏻**Your odds of getting colon cancer will go way down.** One in 23 women develops colon cancer. But researchers found that coffee drinkers — decaf or regular — were 26 percent less likely to develop colorectal cancer. 👉🏻**You may decrease your risk of getting Alzheimer's disease.** Almost two-thirds of Americans living with Alzheimer’s disease are women. But the caffeine in two cups of coffee may provide significant protection against developing the condition. In fact, researchers found that women age 65 and older who drank two to three cups of coffee a day were less likely to develop dementia in general. 👉🏻**You're not as likely to suffer a stroke.** For women, drinking at least one cup of coffee a day is associated with lowered stroke risk, which is the fourth leading cause of death in women.
2022-05-07 10:48:02 +0000 UTC View Post
Throwback Thursday to my 50th birthday 3 years ago. "The night is dark and full of terrors" You don't have to be scared of aging, have a magical necklace, or be a red witch in order to look and feel good as you grow older. Sensible habits and care *can* go a long way.
2022-05-06 01:08:22 +0000 UTC View Post
